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Wednesday, October 20, 2010

 
Oprah, Gay Enemy. Oprah Winfrey hasn't a clue when it comes to gay issues. She recently implicitly praised a teenage boy who murdered a gay man he claimed was molesting him. In the very short time I watched before turning off in a rage, he admitted to having been approached on more than one occasion, but kept going back to be physically close to the man he claimed was molesting him — and then he murdered him, with, tellingly, a phallic symbol, a knife. People who genuinely feel molested, violated, do not go back for more. The kid had a very serious problem with his own homosexual feelings, and deliberately put himself into compromising situations, then fake-indignantly murdered the man who (correctly) took the kid's returning to physical nearness as a sign he wanted physical intimacy. That evil teenager should be killed, not praised.
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But Oprah Winfrey is a stupid woman who understands nothing about homosexuality. She has actively encouraged people who have gender-identity issues to have themselves surgically mutilated and parade their new, hideously fake bodies to the world as that of the opposite sex. Oprah Winfrey is an active conniver in the Castration Conspiracy that destroys fragile young men. Somebody prominent has got to call her on it and make her not just stop, but apologize, admit she was 100% wrong, and urge boys with gender-identity problems derived from their attraction to other boys to seek psychological, not medical help, to help them adjust happily to their true nature, homosexual, rather than indulge their antihomosexual delusions in irreversible, monstrous, Frankensteinian surgery — which should be illegal under pain of death. Any surgeon who castrates a gender-confused young man should have both his hands chopped off, so he bleeds to death into containers from which the blood could be transferred to a blood bank for transfusion into decent people. His (or her) body should then immediately be chopped up for parts for decent people, and the rest burned and the ashes dumped anonymously into a national forest where it will do some good in the world, and no one will know to find them.
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There is no such thing as "sex-change" surgery, just inhuman mutilation by quacks who need to die for crimes against humanity. People like Oprah Winfrey, who encourage gender confusion and castration, should be forced to watch the execution of such quacks, and warned that if they do not stop their co-conspiracy in such crimes, they will be next.

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

 
Anyone and Everyone. I chanced, in the middle of last nite, to see on one of my local PBS stations, NJN-2, a terrific documentary called Anyone and Everyone, about young gay men, and one lesbian, "coming out" to their parents. Several of these young people were lucky enuf to have loving and supporting parents, but I was stunned by how hard some parents took the news.
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When I told my parents (after I had established myself in my own apartment in NYC, 40 or so miles from home), they did not give me much grief over it, but the same pattern as I saw in the documentary held for me: my father was better about it than my mother. She did eventually come around, even to the point of giving me, one Christmas, a book about famous gay people in history.
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Why wouldn't fathers take homosexuality in their son better than the mothers? In wanting men, the son is not rejecting his father; tho the mother may feel he is rejecting her in rejecting women generally.
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One of my brothers had said he thinks I should not use my real last name in my gay-activist work. I thought that was not for him to say, so I asked my father, from whom I got my last name. He laffed. Laffed at the idea that I shouldn't use my last name — his last name. It was one of the best moments between us in all of life. So I am, here in this blog, on the MrGayPride.com website, and everywhere, L. Craig Schoonmaker, not some pseudonymous phony. (I don't know what I'd have done if my father had also said he'd rather I didn't use the family name. Fortunately, I didn't have to make that decision.)
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The documentary was very well done, and quite moving in places, esp. where the sons got choked up about how well their fathers rallied to them. One father, a Mormon whose family is highly placed in the church by ancestry and church activity, was told by the mother (whom the son had told earlier), while the parents were driving somewhere. He pulled off the road into a strip mall to find a fone (pre-cellfone era) so he could call his son and say "Everything's going to be alrite." As you might expect, the son was very relieved, and moved, to hear that.
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In another case, a Catholic teen was also reassured by his father on first hearing, and needed a hug, so asked his father if he could just hold him for a moment. He did.
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Not every case examined went so well, and some of the mothers were extraordinarily, and in my view absurdly, upset. It took them weeks or even months to come to terms with their child's coming out. But the bulk of the parents rallied around their kid, even to the point of standing up against their church and other family members who weren't so accepting. The Mormon mother even told her own mother not to attend her dauter's wedding if she couldn't accept her son's homosexuality, because he would be there. The dauter had already told an unaccepting aunt, the mother's sister, that she wasn't welcome at her wedding.
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The 1975 song "Stand By Me" comes to mind:
When the night has come
And the land is dark
And the moon is the only light we'll see
No I won't be afraid, no I won't be afraid
Just as long as you stand, stand by me

If the sky that we look upon
Should tumble and fall
And the mountains should crumble to the sea
I won't cry, I won't cry, no I won't shed a tear
Just as long as you stand, stand by me.
Not everyone has been so lucky as most of those in this splendid film. A Puerto Rican guy says he hasn't spoken to his mother in several weeks, because she threw him out and didn't want to see him. And in that small group of interviewees, TWO suicides by gay men of their acquaintance were mentioned. The film's website speaks to homelessness and suicide among gay kids, all of which statistics are speculative, since nobody in Government really knows who is gay and who not, in that the Census doesn't ask and a lot of people would lie anyway; and we don't really have statistics even on homelessness (in part because there are different definitions of "homelessness"). I think the Jewish kid in the film found "disgusting" the fact that someone he met shot himself dead because people couldn't deal with his being gay — or is it that he himself couldn't deal with being gay? In any case, it is disgusting.
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I visited a friend from high school in her first year at Swarthmore College, an elite institution near Philly. In a group conversation, a guy said that some kid had committed suicide by walking on train tracks near the school, and some of the fellow students condemned that as "stupid" — which made quite an impression on him, because kids in elite colleges don't ever want to be thought stupid. Perhaps if people contemplating suicide thought that they would gain not sympathy but contempt for doing that, it would help them hold the line against a momentary crisis, to push beyond into the better times ahead.
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Suicide has been described famously as "a permanent solution to a temporary problem". In regard to gay suicides, documentaries such as Anyone and Everyone, and videos like the recent anti-bullying statement by a gay Fort Worth councilman have to help. Appallingly, 41 years after Stonewall, much more still needs to be done.
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I trust that the kids shown in this 2007 film have passed along to other gay men the emotional support they got at a key time in their lives. The last couplet in Ben E. King's song speaks to giving as well as receiving support:
Whenever you're in trouble won't you stand by me, oh now stand by me
Oh stand by me, stand by me, stand by me.
P.S., November 7, 2010: Perhaps someday I will be able to read this post and follow its links without crying tears of joy and liberation. That day has not yet arrived. And, you know what? I am proud to be pushed to tears by the two extraordinary renditions of the wonderful song "Stand by Me" that I link to above, links that I hope you have followed and listened to. I have been alone much of my life, and if I can help someone get past a terrible time, I will do so without hesitation or apology. I personally have never, alas, actually needed anyone — my personal tragedy — because I am unusually self-sufficient (not wholly by choice). Even I, however, would have been happier to have someone to "stand by me".

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

 
Antigay Dr. Socarides and His Gay Son. I have seen a Richard Socarides on MSNBC's Countdown with Keith Olbermann speaking to gay issues. I found that interesting in that there was a viciously antihomosexual psychiatrist named Charles Socarides who, in the 1970s, fought against gay rights. So I looked up these two people with the same unusual name, and it turns out that Richard is not just pro-gay but openly gay, and is indeed the son of the antigay bigot. How very funny. It's not enuf to make me think there is a God with a cutting sense of humor, but it is very funny. (By the way, my "gaydar" must be failing, because I didn't see Richard S. as gay.)

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

 
Jews Against Gays — Who Wins? Who Loses? MSNBC's Countdown with Keith Olbermann last nite showed extended video clips, first of New York Tea Party-Republican Candidate for Governor Carl Paladino (an adulterer) blasting homosexuals in the presence of monstrously hideous, inbred (who else would have them?), Hassidic Jews, with silly hats on their heads, ringlets down around their faces, long beards, and long black coats; and then (a clip) of one such Hassid, Rabbi Yehuda Levin, praising Paladino for fomenting hatred. Hitler would be proud. They have learned their lesson well: teach hatred. Hm. What ever happened to Hitler? Ah, yes. He was forced to commit suicide as the forces of a huge international alliance bore down on his bunker.
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Hassids seem to think they are so well loved that they can attack other people and not suffer any adverse consequences. Think again.
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In the United States, not even Orthodox Jews care for extreme-Orthodox Hassids, and the bulk of American Jews, who are not even Orthodox, much less ultra-Orthodox, but Conservative and Reform or, frankly, secular (Jewish in name and culture only) are embarrassed by them. The idea that Hassids are still preaching the vile garbage of Leviticus's condemnation of homosexuality is a profound embarrassment to most American Jews. If gay men, lesbians, and their families and friends decide to condemn Hassidism and promote hatred of everyone who teaches hatred of homosexuals, who will win?
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Hideous, Hassidic extremists cleave to antiquated, idiotic teachings from Leviticus such as that God forbids people from eating pork (including exquisite bacon) and shellfish in all forms, and especially severely condemns eating a bacon cheeseburger with a glass of milk — as a deep and unforgivable offense to God! By far most Jews in the United States today understand that the dietary laws of the ancient world had nothing to do with godliness but only with sanitation — that they were essentially health regulations in a time when pigs carried things like trichinosis and parasites from a diet heavy in things that people regarded as unhealthy, and that there was no refrigeration for shellfish, in a hot area of the world. They also may realize that the prohibition on homosexuality was an attempt to boost the numbers of Hebrews in their endless conflicts with other tribal peoples around them, by forcibly channeling all sexual energy into procreation rather than recreation, or loving intimacy that did not produce children for the armies of Israel or Judah.
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It's time for the modern world to destroy all the idiocy of the ancient Jewish scriptures, from the nonsense about Adam and Eve being the only people on Earth at the beginning of the world, but their children not having sex with each other (as would mean that all of humanity is the product of repeated and endemic incest!); to the odious notion that they should praise a God that drowned the world, including kittens and puppies, for the sins of one species; to the ridiculous idea that a great being concerned with ethicality would care if a person wore a hat or ate a clam or oyster.
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The violence-and-madness filled Old Testament should be torn out of all Christian Bibles, and burned in every copy, that paper biomass used to generate electricity to produce lite rather than darkness.
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Christian Americans should accept the obvious, that the Jewish God of Wrath is NOT the Christian God of Love. That the God of the Christians would NEVER have drowned the world (including puppies and kittens) to punish misbehaving people, and doesn't care if a person wants to drink milk with a serving of meat. Christians need to realize that a very large portion of the Jewish Book of Leviticus that is dredged up to condemn homosexuality, concerns ANIMAL SACRIFICE — which not even Jews still practice — and dietary laws, not just homosexuality in particular or sexual morality more generally. Christians also need to know that Looniticus mandates death to children who disrespect their parents. Why don't we hear politicians demanding the death penalty for kids who tell their parents to go f*k themselves, using Leviticus 20:9 as moral authority?: "For every one that curseth his father or his mother shall be surely put to death: he hath cursed his father or his mother; his blood shall be upon him." That language is absolutely parallel to the antihomosexual provision that Hassids and narrowminded heterosexual "Christians" keep using to condemn homosexuality, a mere four verses later: "If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death. Their blood shall be upon them."
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Why do "Christians" pick and choose which parts of Leviticus they will heed, and which ignore, or even ridicule? Why don't they obey Leviticus 12:3, and circumcise baby boys as a religious obligation? How can they eat pork or shrimp, or drink a milkshake with a hamburger? Why are ALL the requirements of Leviticus EXCEPT the prohibition on homosexuality IGNORED by so-called "Christians"?
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And what about adultery and Leviticus, Mr. Carl Adulterer Paladino?: "And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbor's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death." (Lev. 20:10) How DARE Carl Paladino, who has admitted to committing adultery, go to a Hassidic Jewish group and pose as a great defender of the values of Leviticus? The word "chutzpah" was invented for this kind of thing, and goes back thru Yiddish to Aramaic, the language Jesus spoke.
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Chris Rovzar of New York Magazine was quick to pick up on Paladino's gall, under the heading, "Wouldn’t Carl Paladino’s Remarks Yesterday Have Made More Sense If Someone Had Said It This Way?":
"I just think my children and your children would be much better off and much more successful getting married and raising one family, and I don’t want them brainwashed into thinking that committing adultery and raising two separate secret families is an equally valid and successful option — it isn’t … That’s not the example we should be showing our children".
It's time for Christians to repudiate Leviticus in its entirety, and warn people, be they Hassids or any other retrogressive and intolerant group trying to foist ancient stupidity and violent moralism — not morality, since people who practiced animal sacrifice are in no position to talk about morality — that if they try to push that crap onto the civilized people of the United States, they will face retribution. Hassidic Judaism could be declared a cult, put outside the protections of the First Amendment, prosecuted for promoting hate crimes, and eradicated from this country.
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Apparently Hassids never heard, or don't believe, the expression "People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones." Especially should not people who didn't like it when Germany broke Jewish glass in Kristallnacht, not so long ago in historical terms, think they can now throw stones at homosexuals. How many Christian Americans have Jewish relatives? How many have gay or lesbian relatives? Do the math, and shut the f*k up. Keep your hateful bullsh*t to yourselves.
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You want to believe in the vile and violent crap of Leviticus? Go right ahead. But when you intrude that crap into public policy debates, you are asking for more trouble than you can handle. And don't expect other Jews to defend you. They know better than to take Leviticus seriously when it says stupid, indeed insane, things about putting people to death for swearing at their parents, or a man's having sex with another man, or anyone's having sex outside marriage. Tiny minorities that exist only at the sufferance of society — which can be rescinded — really should not promote hatred of minorities.

Monday, October 04, 2010

 
Still Gay Suicides — Disgusting and Infuriating, More Than Just Sad. NBC Nitely News has reported on FOUR — count 'em, 4! — suicides of gay boys or young men across the country in "the last few weeks". The most notorious and shocking was here in New Jersey, when heterosexual monsters spied on a gay college student while he was having sex with another guy and streamed the action, without permission of course, on the Internet! The guy was so humiliated that he jumped off the George Washington Bridge (between North Jersey and NYC), a very high roadway, into the Hudson River. I'm saddened that he wasn't brought to his senses by the fresh air and gorgeous views from that walkway, on my favorite bridge in the world. I have been happy to stroll that walkway, but now it will hold sadness for me.
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Why is suicide of taunted gay men and boys still happening, 41 years after Stonewall? What the hell is The Movement doing that it has not focused on preventing suicide? "Where there is life, there is hope." Conversely, alas, where there is no hope, there is, all too often, no life. What good is anything else The Movement does if the people it is supposed to help kill themselves?
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Would a heterosexual student shown, without permission, having heterosexual sex on the Internet be so humiliated that he would commit suicide? Possibly, but not likely. SO likely was it that a very young gay man shown having sex with another man WOULD commit suicide, that the acts of those two despicable students must be treated as premeditated murder, and a hate crime.
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I don't actually approve of hate crimes in general, since on their face they deny "equal treatment under law" to people not covered by the statute. But this is slitely different, because the identical crime of monstrous invasion of privacy committed against a straight man and a gay man would almost certainly have different outcomes because of societal bias. Thus the crimes are actually different, and the predictable, far worse outcome of the same attack on the privacy of a gay man warrants a prosecution and punishment for a far more serious crime than mere invasion of privacy, or harassment, or any other trivial charge initially considered by the Middlesex County prosecutor's office.
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Some heterosexual male college students would actually LIKE knowing that they were shown having sex with a woman on the Internet. They would brag about it, and want to have a copy of the tape to show others. I am reminded of a story about President Sukarno of Indonesia. Political opponents tricked him into a "compromising position" with two (female) prostitutes and filmed the encounter. They then threatened to release the film to media (there was no Internet in those days). He was then a fairly old man, so he laffed and said, 'Go right ahead! It will boost my image — TWO women! In fact, I want a copy myself.' Will very young gay men and boys ever reach that condition of pride and self-assurance?
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I have had email exchanges in the past with longtime gay activists who have been hugely self-satisfied with how much progress we have supposedly made. Then four gay boys and men commit suicide within one month because of oppressive antigay harassment and humiliation, which puts the lie to how far we've come. What we have done is not enuf, and not the right things. People win respect; they can't demand it. And the first step in gaining respect is to respect yourself.
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The very largest part of the efforts of any gay organization must be to help gay boys and men become comfortable with homosexual SEX, the thing that sets them apart from straight people of both genders and from lesbians. Organizations that don't let gay kids feel comfortable about talking about SEX, with other gay male kids and young men but WITHOUT any woman around, are OPPRESSIVE, and completely fail the people they pretend to want to help.
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Homosexual sex is WONDERFUL — if you do it right; but a lot of young guys don't really know how to do it right, and have no one to ask. There are actually ostensible "gay" organizations that have WOMEN as the only people gay boys can ask about gay sex — which they won't do. And those women cannot possibly know what they're talking about if they dare to try to intrude into sex between males. Gay boys need to talk about gay sex with other gay boys and men. That should be obvious, but nothing is obvious to the lunatic morons who run all organizations nowadays.
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Sane people have been driven out of gay organizations by the endless stream of new, confused, self-despising losers who join the organizations and impose unliberated stances upon everyone. So the well-adjusted leave, the lunatics take over the asylum, and the organizations become toxic manufacturers of misinformation and misery that cannot possibly help anyone find happiness, because the people who staff them are miserably unhappy, maladjusted losers themselves.
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The very first responsibility of any gay organization is to make young gay boys and men happy in themselves and in their sexual interactions with other gay guys. They must work on helping gay people realize that being gay is the most wonderful thing in the world: you get to BE a man and HAVE a man. What could be better?
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But the typical "gay", or, more commonly, "lesbigay" organization is dominated by people who are completely confused about everything, including things you'd think nobody COULD be confused about, like gender. There are actually idiot losers telling the young people who contact lesbigay organizations that gender is a choice, a mental attitude, not a hard-and-fast biological condition that derives from DNA, not daydreaming. All organizations that deal with young gay males should be PURGED of the loons, to teach people to accept the FACT of biological gender and come to peace with reality, not play stupid games that produce, in extreme cases, surgical and chemical mutilation, to castrate men, slash a slit in their crotch, and tell the world that they are women (because, of course, all a woman is, is a slit in the crotch!) — all because society can't accept that myriad real men really want real men, and that is their actual NATURE, not a delusion. To the appalling contrary, many lesbigay organizations actually promote gender confusion as tho it were a good thing, and tell confused young men that they can escape societal disapproval by mutilating themselves and pretending to be a woman, tricking heterosexual men into homosexual relationships they would be horrified to discover they'd been having.
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In short, far from being the gay male's best friend, the lesbigay movement is his worst enemy.
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There are some things young males can read that can help them come to terms with homosexual reality, and take pride in their actual nature, but they are rare and hard for most people to find. The best source I know is the publications of the organization I founded at City College/CUNY in April 1969, Homosexuals Intransigent!. "Intransigent" with an exclamation point: uncompromising! No indulgence of gender confusion. No organizing heterosexually, men-and-women-together-now! No pretense that somehow gay men and lesbian women are the same, or have some special relationship in the nature of things. No toleration of "bisexual" confusion and cowardice.
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The bulk of the publications of Homosexuals Intransigent! are now available online at http://www.mrgaypride.org and/or http://mrgaypride.tripod.com. If every young gay male who doubts his masculinity or decency; if every young gay male who is confused about gender and the difference between sexual liberation and sexual perversion (sado-masochism most dangerously); if every young gay male who wants to be homosexual but fears that to be so would condemn him to perpetual unhappiness, from this day forth to the end of his life, would read EVERY WORD on the MrGayPride website, they would all gain immeasurably in self-acceptance and pride, and march into the future with confidence that homosexuality offers them not just sexual excitement and fulfillment — tho it assuredly does — but also a life of dignity, with a chance at a permanent love relationship with a wonderful man.
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They would learn that what matters most is personal happiness as a homosexual, thru self-acceptance and self-pride; and once they have that, they can approach all the world as equals, extending respect and getting respect in return. Once they themselves have benefited from those writings, maybe they can share the insights they gave rise to, with other gay men, especially confused young men, so we can end suicide as an all-too-common end of gay male lives.
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I urge gay men who have found that self-acceptance has to date eluded them, to read everything in the Mr. Gay Pride website: http://www.mrgaypride.org and/or http://mrgaypride.tripod.com. If, after reading everything, you have questions you did not see addressed, feel free to write to me at MrGayPride#aol.com (where the # stands in for the @ sign).

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